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Monday 9 September 2013

How To Keep Him Interested In Your Relationship

By Stella McLeod


Are you having a hard time attracting a guy? Do you have your eye on a guy who doesn't seem to show any interest in you? Is there a guy you like who sees you as just a friend? Would you like to find out how to keep him interested in you? Now if you do, here are 5 attraction secrets that can help you.

Although men tend to marry women who have the qualities mentioned above, they prefer to do the pursuing at the beginning of the relationship. They thrive on "the thrill of the chase," and lose interest if a woman is too available. To give him the illusion of being the one in pursuit, a woman would be wise to play a bit hard to get at first. Here's how:Don't always pick up the phone on the first ring. Let him wonder where you are and what you are doing.Don't be instantly available when he asks you out. Tell him you'll have to check your calendar. And don't accept the date if you have a conflict.If he texts you or calls, let him wait for an hour or so before you respond. Let him know you are a busy, active woman who has better things to do than sit around waiting for him to call.Do wait for him to ask you out. If you do the asking, you will take the excitement out of the chase.Be a little mysterious and a lot of fun.

In addition to wanting to be the pursuer, men look for a little mystery and intrigue in a woman that interests them. Don't be too forthcoming with all the details of your life. Let him find out gradually what kind of person you are.Dress and act a little sexy and provocative. Tease him a little and show him what a fun person you can be and he'll soon be coming back for more.Be sure to continue to pursue your own interests and keep up with your friends. Let him know you have a full, rich life of your own and are a confident, self-sufficient woman. Decoding male psychology and acting accordingly with go a long way toward building a lasting relationship with a man.

Another way on how to keep him interested in you is by showing a guy you are confident. Men don't like women who are desperate, sneaky and needy. Men consider these women with such qualities as high maintenance. For most men, these kinds of women are hard to live with and are usually hard to please and build relationship with. And most of the time, they only stay with these kinds of women because they feel obliged or they are being manipulated. Therefore, be sure to make your man realize that you are a confident woman.

Third, tell him important facts about you, but leave a little information to be a mystery. Whilst it is important to let him learn more facts about you, it will also be very favorable for you if you leave a little mystery. From time to time, let him ask questions about you. Don't just blurt out everything. If you do this, you'll increase his curiosity and you can be sure that he will turn his attention on you and will eventually stay with you much longer.

This means that you will have to think like the guy. Don't try to reason things out like a woman because you will end up sobbing your heart out instead of looking at the facts in a logical manner. Look at your relationship through a microscope and find out if there are things that could make him slip away. Deal with those areas positively.A guy can only take that much! You may look like a sex bomb or a fashion model - but that does not guarantee your man's love and interest for a lifetime if you have a bad attitude. No one can stand a woman with a bad attitude so clean up your act!

Another sure fire way to keep him interested in you: Just as they need space so do you. As mentioned earlier, let him miss you. Have a night out with the girls. Go shopping. Resist the urge of wanting to be with him. Now this appeals to the more primitive side of man. They love a challenge. When he sees that you're not as available as you were at the start of the relationship, he slips into the puppy mode and tries to get back your attention. A word of caution: don't overdo it. Someone else might find your lost puppy and bring him home.

Probably one of the more common mistakes (that you don't even realize or won't admit you've been doing) is taking him for granted. Whatever happened to that sexy, hot and interesting woman he fell in love with? Just because you've been together for years doesn't give you the right to put on 20 pounds and go out in jogging pants and an old college sweater. Always try to look good both for yourself and for him.




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