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Wednesday 11 September 2013

How To Ask A Girl Out On Date

By Keri Loots


Well there are really no best ways to woo a girl or ask her out as a lot depends on her individual personality. If you try too hard she may get put off and if you do not then she may feel you are not interested in her. So maybe you have to toe the middle line and see how she reacts. No doubt a woman likes to be pursued, but not in an unwelcome and crude sort of way. Show her that you are really interested and would like to spend more time with her and maybe not with the whole gang around. Here again it should not have any physical innuendos where she feels you want to get too close physically and that is why you want to meet her alone.

In this type of scenario, a text invitation would be most convenient. There also less shock should the girl reject an invitation to go out. Guys feel embarrassed when, after asking a girl for a date, she politely refuses.It is worse when she rejects him in front of his friends; with a text invitation, no one need know. Men do not like rejection and thus if a guy is going to text an invitation to a girl, he must word the text correctly.A man should never write a cursory note to a girl like she is one of his buddies, is not going to score him any points, regardless of whether she is interested or not.

If you do not belong to the same group but have met casually and you have taken a liking to her, then of course it is not so simple. If you know someone in her crowd then try and get her number from them and also try and find out whether she is already friendly with someone else, because if this is so, then she may not be interested in you at all. If she is free you may stand a chance. Give her a casual call and see how she responds, if she is friendly and does not cut you short then you can call her again. Build up a rapport with her before you ask her out. This is a much safer way of doing it, so that she does not feel that you are rushing her and back off. Maybe she might surprise you by giving you a call suddenly to chat with you, and if this happens you can be sure that she likes you.

The first thing he needs to do is figure out where he is going to take her. Will it be a movie, a romantic dinner followed by a show or concert? This is very important. Just sending a text asking her out is not enough.She will quite possibly ask, "Where are we going?" She does not want, or need, to read a guy's return text with simply the word "Pub".

You will never have success with a woman if you are unsure about how to ask her out. The one thing that every guy should know is that a woman is attracted to confidence. This is why you should always be decisive when asking her out for the first time. However, you also have to make sure that you are not being too aggressive. This will just scare her away.

It's possible that you could walk up to a woman and wow her with a great pick-up line. It's also possible that she will reject you right off the bat. The better way to ask a girl out is to ease into it. Start by complimenting her on her eyes or her shirt. A good tactic is to simply introduce yourself then offer to buy her a drink.

This is almost like a first date without having to ask her out. Spend the rest of the time you have with her just getting to know her. When she gets up to leave, ask her if she would like to meet up with you again sometime. Don't forget to get her phone number.

While some girls find nervousness flattering, asking one out often goes better when the man is calm and collected. Try to at least appear relaxed and ease into asking her out. Make a little conversation. Smile and laugh where appropriate. Let her talk and then come out with a simple line like, "We should go out sometime." Say it with a smile and look her in the eye. Do not anticipate a particular response. Being ready for anything will make whatever she says easier to handle. In addition, if it is handled well, she might change her mind in the future.

Sometimes the opportunity to ask a girl out presents itself suddenly and should be acted upon immediately. However, if it is planned a little ahead of time, it is a good idea to be presentable. Smell good in case she likes the idea of going on a date and takes the instance of you asking as an invitation to get close. Look good so that the idea of going on a date is appealing. Lastly, a kiss might come out of the situation, so brush, floss and gargle. Avoid smelly foods until after the deed is done.

Dating sites have become quite popular over the past few years. If you are using a dating site, it is important that you represent yourself in an honest manner. Forget about using a photo of you from five years ago. She will want to see the real you when you finally do meet. Any email messages that you send should be short and concise. Aim to start a conversation as opposed to sending her a long list of reasons why you should be with her forever.




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