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Monday 14 October 2013

How To Build Self Confidence To Approach Women

By Mark B. Elms


Many people believe that self confidence is something you either have or don't. This is a self limiting belief and like most self limiting beliefs it simply isn't true. Possessing assured self confidence is a skill that can be developed by anyone and once you do acquire it, you will feel much calmer, less stressed and the quality of your life will significantly improve.So, if you want to become a person who oozes confidence, then the following 3 ways to build self confidence will help you achieve it.Respect Yourself - The cornerstone of self-confidence is self respect. Many people who lack self confidence are terribly hard on themselves. They put themselves down at every opportunity and beat themselves up over and over again with all of the mistakes they have made. Additionally, they will criticize the way they look, their personalities and negatively brood over difficult times from the past that have been and gone.

If you think about it, what we call failure is really just feedback and adjustment. You do something and see what results you get from it. If you're happy with them (you succeed), just keep doing what you're doing. If you're not happy (you fail), stop doing what you're doing and try something else. Learn from your mistakes and always do your best.

When you do that, you'll see that you'll be improving very rapidly.If you want to fix something, do it.This is crucial if you want to know how to build self-confidence.See, when you work on achieving something, there will probably be a time when you'll want to blame someone else for your failures.It's very natural and all of us do that sometimes. The truth is that it's always your fault. Even if you're not directly responsible for the failure, it's still your fault.

you don't need to keep feeling disgusted about your skin color or whatever, you need to stop thinking that the guy under the tree is laughing because of your size, he may be laughing at you but that is only when you are laughing at yourself also, walk and talk majestically, like you like yourself, like you know what you are doing, stop looking down on yourself when you talk to people - you are unique.And whatever you believe about yourself, the world would eventually buy it.

Believe in yourself.Have you noticed how in some countries people tie an elephant to a little stick and put a thin piece of rope around its ankle? Have you ever wondered why that animal doesn't just snap free?Well, it's because it doesn't believe it can.See, when an elephant is small, they put it in shackles and attach a strong chain to its leg. Of course at first, the animal pulls at it, jerks and jumps around to set itself free, but then, after some time.it just gives up.

It learns that whenever someone puts a piece of rope around its ankle, it just won't be able to free itself.People are very similar in that aspect. They stop believing in themselves after they've failed a few times.Don't be like that elephant. You need that belief, as well as the other things we talked about, to really know how to build self-confidence.




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