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Wednesday 5 June 2019

How To Manage Raw Emotions Effectively

By Larry Murphy


A beautiful day can be ruined by a single act when you least expect it. This leaves you seething with raw emotions to the point of taking a nasty drastic action. Experts advise people to manage these feelings because they may cause a lot of damage. But how do you deal with them before you hurt people or damage property?

Take a deep breath and rethink your actions. This will buy you the few precious seconds that make a difference between a regrettable act and saving the situation. The breath helps you refocus and avoid injuries, insults or damage to property. You reconsider your action and therefore avoid a catastrophic end.

Consider the circumstances and reasons that would have caused the offender to act the way he or she did. Most nasty reactions arise from the thought that you have been offended. Unfortunately, you have no idea why the person acted that way. Take a minute to evaluate the situation. You might realize that your reaction or action would have been similar in the prevailing circumstances.

Depart from the scene. This gives you the space to clean your thoughts and clear the mind over the situation at hand. Remaining at the scene means that your mind continues to be toxic. Negative feelings will boil to an uncontrollable point. Take a break and your reaction will not be as damaging as when you remain at the scene.

Take control of your mind. All actions and emotions come from whatever is going on in your mind. Control what you think about the person or situation. Master the thoughts that would cause you to act abruptly. Taking control of the mind saves you from taking a regrettable step.

Adapt controlled behavior or reaction to a situation. Controlled behavior or action can be attributed to the character of a person. It means that you have developed a way of dealing with similar situations. You are required to act as the bigger person in the circumstance. This remains the only way to make a reasonable decision.

Identify the feeling, acknowledge its existence and accept the entire scenario. This consciousness helps you to realize how close you are to taking a regrettable action. Since the feelings have been identified and accepted, they can easily be dealt with.

Engage in self-soothing acts. These acts are unique to each individual. While some people hum tunes they are fond of, others will stroll outside. Other self-soothing acts include gazing at the horizon, tapping the desk and talking to a friend. It is a way of deflecting the negative energy and buying time so as to avoid a nasty reaction. It shields you from regrettable actions in future.

A support system will help you manage the boiling rage. This could be a friend, relative, senior, colleague or people in your network. They offer a platform to bounce-off the anger and cool down before taking a regrettable step.




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