Just because I didn't react doesn't mean I didn't make a choice. Just because I didn't explode at you doesn't meant that there weren't any consequences to your actions.
When I was little, my emotions were out of control. I would always explode and I was pretty close to a living tornado. Everything inside of me was a stress reaction to everything that was happening outside in the world.
But as I grew up and learned how to control myself a little bit more, I became quieter. I stopped talking as much and learned to listen more to what was going on around me. Instead of being a reaction to everything, I became an observer.
And because I did all of this, I learned some very important lessons about life.
Not everything needs some sort of big reaction.
A display. A fight. A grand gesture. Words exchanged.
Not everything has to have an equally matched counter reaction to what happened.
I found out that there's a great deal of strength in having grace under pressure and being fluid instead of rigid. Life isn't as much about what happens to you but rather how you decide to act after it has all happened.
This was one of the greatest things I learned. But there was something else as well...
It was the power of action beneath the surface. What I mean by that is just because you didn't make a grand display of something doesn't mean that you didn't make decisions in that moment that weren't available to the naked eye.
You can act in silence.
Patiently.
Calmly.
Because I value myself and know what's good for my heart. I know that exploding and losing control of myself is only going to harm me in the end.
It's a beautiful thing to be looking out for yourself and all for the other person as well.
Because of course you could raise all hell, but is that really going to be the best thing for you? Probably not.
It's time to try a different approach.
When I was little, my emotions were out of control. I would always explode and I was pretty close to a living tornado. Everything inside of me was a stress reaction to everything that was happening outside in the world.
But as I grew up and learned how to control myself a little bit more, I became quieter. I stopped talking as much and learned to listen more to what was going on around me. Instead of being a reaction to everything, I became an observer.
And because I did all of this, I learned some very important lessons about life.
Not everything needs some sort of big reaction.
A display. A fight. A grand gesture. Words exchanged.
Not everything has to have an equally matched counter reaction to what happened.
I found out that there's a great deal of strength in having grace under pressure and being fluid instead of rigid. Life isn't as much about what happens to you but rather how you decide to act after it has all happened.
This was one of the greatest things I learned. But there was something else as well...
It was the power of action beneath the surface. What I mean by that is just because you didn't make a grand display of something doesn't mean that you didn't make decisions in that moment that weren't available to the naked eye.
You can act in silence.
Patiently.
Calmly.
Because I value myself and know what's good for my heart. I know that exploding and losing control of myself is only going to harm me in the end.
It's a beautiful thing to be looking out for yourself and all for the other person as well.
Because of course you could raise all hell, but is that really going to be the best thing for you? Probably not.
It's time to try a different approach.
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