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Sunday 4 August 2013

Dealing With Domestic Abuse Stories

By Maryanne Goff


If you work in a field where you offer guidance, counseling, and advice to people who have domestic abuse stories to tell, make sure that you know some really important pointers on how the task is supposed to get done. This is a very sensitive field that you are working in. So, making sure that you know exactly how to better handle the experiences of these people matters a lot.

You have to approach your job and the people that you talk to and attend to every time with the proper attitude and the proper outlook. You will find that many of these people would come to you and ask for your advice. Make sure that the way you address their concerns and attend to their issues is exactly dine in the most sensitive, proper way possible. They deserve that.

Many people who had this same ordeal in the past always find it hard to talk about them because of the fact that they are afraid of the stigma that is often associated with the experience. They often seem to think that somehow, they were at fault as to why these things happened to them. Hence, making sure that you will consider these factors is always critical.

Assure them that you will be there to listen. You are there to help them get over whatever bad things that they have to go through because of the experiences they had. Explain to them that are going to offer your help as best as you can. This would at least help them loosen up their grips on their innermost emotions and allow you to get to know them a lot better.

Do not judge. Never judge these people and how they ended up with such an experience. You want to make sure that you will be there for them and listen to them recount their predicament. But you are not there to pass judgment. You are there to allow them to have a better understanding of their current situation and make sure that you can help them back to their feet again.

Explain to them how they will actually heal in time. Of course, there is no such thing as a formula that you can use to tell them when they are going to heal completely or when the pain will completely stop. Every person has a different coping mechanisms than the other. They have different ways to recover from such experience that the next one beside them. Just tell them to take their time.

Offer encouragements. Egg them on. Tell them that their life definitely did not stop when they were abused by their better halves. Tell them that their coming forward and coming to terms with everything that has happened to them is their new beginning. Explain to them that now is about the best time for them to get on with their lives and show to those who abused them before what they really are worth of.

Make sure that you will tell these people with domestic abuse stories to go join support groups too. Somehow, many have found easier. Faster healing when they are with people who had to go through the same experiences as them. These people understand them and hat they had to go through a lot better. So, it is easier for them to be themselves when with such a group.




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