Hearing the child abuse survivor stories that we hear can be very difficult to imagine. Realizing how these children have been stripped of their innocence is heart wrenching. The word is finally out; these children need to come forth with their stories.
One of the most common threads is the self shame that these people share. Even into adulthood many will speak of feeling that they deserved the punishment. Something they did had to have been very wrong or these acts would not have been performed. As much as they despise the abuse, they continually try to make up for whatever wrong they did and get their abusers to love them.
Not all mistreatment is done by sexual or physical means. Many children receive no bruises whatsoever. Yet they are as distraught and victimized as others with horror stories to tell. They receive so much emotional degradation that they begin believing they are useless and no good. Again they will persistently work at 'making themselves better' so the torment will stop.
As strange as it may seem, the abusive party is usually quite well known to the child. In many cases it a close family member such as a parent, aunt or uncle. Others are identified as long term friends or people in positions of high respect and admiration such as a pastor. It is no wonder that these children often blame themselves for the acts of abuse.
A person can be a highly respected member of the community. They may be married with children and be a model parent. These perpetrators take their deeds away from home to keep their reputation from being tarnished. They use the internet as a means of weaving their deceit and luring children to them. Parents are urged to keep a close watch on the people their child talks with. Despite any rules you have set, these men and women are experts in what they do.
Make special note that boys are not any less victimized than girls. Many pedophiles will deliberately try to draw out young boys and use them as they will. The recent controversy in the Church has opened up a shock wave of young boys that have been abused by the church officials.
If you find many of these stories to be repulsive, allow them to act as a teaching tool that provides you with signals that all is not right. Teach your child the difference between good touching and bad touching. Let them know that it is okay to tell if someone acts inappropriately toward them.
It is crucial to the proper development of any child that parents and other close family members are constantly on the look out for what may be indications that something is remiss. Sex and physical offenders are people that are suffering their own psychological disorders and they need to be stopped before any further harm is done. Children will shy away from their offenders out of fear and that fear should be obvious to the onlooker. Always give your child permission to relate any child abuse survivor stories they may have to tell.
One of the most common threads is the self shame that these people share. Even into adulthood many will speak of feeling that they deserved the punishment. Something they did had to have been very wrong or these acts would not have been performed. As much as they despise the abuse, they continually try to make up for whatever wrong they did and get their abusers to love them.
Not all mistreatment is done by sexual or physical means. Many children receive no bruises whatsoever. Yet they are as distraught and victimized as others with horror stories to tell. They receive so much emotional degradation that they begin believing they are useless and no good. Again they will persistently work at 'making themselves better' so the torment will stop.
As strange as it may seem, the abusive party is usually quite well known to the child. In many cases it a close family member such as a parent, aunt or uncle. Others are identified as long term friends or people in positions of high respect and admiration such as a pastor. It is no wonder that these children often blame themselves for the acts of abuse.
A person can be a highly respected member of the community. They may be married with children and be a model parent. These perpetrators take their deeds away from home to keep their reputation from being tarnished. They use the internet as a means of weaving their deceit and luring children to them. Parents are urged to keep a close watch on the people their child talks with. Despite any rules you have set, these men and women are experts in what they do.
Make special note that boys are not any less victimized than girls. Many pedophiles will deliberately try to draw out young boys and use them as they will. The recent controversy in the Church has opened up a shock wave of young boys that have been abused by the church officials.
If you find many of these stories to be repulsive, allow them to act as a teaching tool that provides you with signals that all is not right. Teach your child the difference between good touching and bad touching. Let them know that it is okay to tell if someone acts inappropriately toward them.
It is crucial to the proper development of any child that parents and other close family members are constantly on the look out for what may be indications that something is remiss. Sex and physical offenders are people that are suffering their own psychological disorders and they need to be stopped before any further harm is done. Children will shy away from their offenders out of fear and that fear should be obvious to the onlooker. Always give your child permission to relate any child abuse survivor stories they may have to tell.
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